be yourself. but how.

This one is written for myself and the one who asked me to write it down when I made the similar speech. It is very very simple opinion but I guess I just need to be reminded occassionaly.

I was back from 360 assessment (whatever ppl call it) of group meeting today. Basically it is about each member make both positive and negative comments about others. One thing I found interesting is (well it sounds simple but)... actually you're not exactly what you turn to be in front of people... at least compared to what you think.

One core concept about individualism is "be yourself but not anyone else". People have different interpretations. Mostly what we get to know is being yourself = being an impressive yourself. It is boring to be like others. It is boring to follow what others think. Well... but how to be yourself.

Being center of attention to impress people is what we learned most as being in this generation. I remember when I was a teenager I sang a song in front of big audience during a performance show. I was very impressive and everybody thought I sang so well... I was really proud myself too. But it turned out later that actually they forgot to switch off the original voice of the song and the one who was singing was not me but the singer in the tape. Well it pretty explained why I always didnt like to sing aloud afterwards because I have been afraid to know how bad I actually sing... and that probably is the real me.
It is always not wrong to impress people and sometimes we get lot of satisfaction by our performance thinking we did impress others -- well we were right most of the times. But what actually was happening is, people might be impressed by sth you're not aware of that you've been doing and what you've been so conscious about like how to perform what to present in just effort goes in vain.
Back to the question, then, how to be yourself. If presentation is no good, how to just be me.

You are the only thing in this world that can be control by yourself. You are the one who is seeking for excellence lifelong. If you want to be great person. Start to think like great person. I sometimes admire how smart great persons could be. Because they know the importance of persuing those values that is stable and forever. Good values and great goals are not like people, including people's attention, praise, approval which are not stable. Of course they can be reviewed constantly for your own refernce but once they become the origin of your sense of achievment, then your whole world would be gone once those are gone. Simple example is relationship, lets say a guy is so in love with the girl and she to him is everything he can think of and do things for in this world. Once the love of the girl is not there anymore, this boy could be devastated. Well its a simple case but it is so true that I guess most of the people experience similar thing.
We are young and motivated. What is pushing us going from one adventure to next one is very powerful and crucial. Let it be sth that you can look up to and really really do it with appreciation. Think big and think true. Once you know what is good for you and picture it long term you might find yourself clearer.

Be yourself. Yes other people are watching. But the only way to enjoy it meanwhile do it good is be yourself for nobody but yourself.